Media personality Toke Makinwa has opened up about her decision to remain single following her divorce, addressing the pressures and expectations surrounding her personal life.
Toke married businessman Maje Ayida in 2014, but their marriage ended in 2017 after allegations of infidelity. Since the split, she has focused on her career and personal development, choosing not to remarry.
In a recent episode of her podcast, Toke Moments, the 40-year-old reflected on society’s expectations of women, emphasizing that she has come to embrace her own truth, despite the constant pressure to remarry.
She acknowledged that while many might assume she feels incomplete without a husband or children, she has found fulfillment in her journey.
“Regret is so exhausting; you have to get comfortable with your truth. The hardest thing I could say to myself was, ‘Geez, I am 40, single, and childless.’ I said it, and I didn’t die! That used to make me almost tear up. But if I’m completely honest, had I gotten married again, I would’ve been divorced again because the lessons just never stop,” Toke said.
“I could focus on not having a child or husband, but I also have to acknowledge that I’m 40, I’m a boss, I’ve built an empire, I’m one of the most influential voices in Africa, and I’m not waking up miserable,” she added.
Encouraging others to embrace their own realities, Toke emphasized, “Sometimes, you need to sit with your truth; you cannot shame the shameless.”
